II Timothy 1:7 For God has not given us a spirit of timidity, but of power, love and self-control.
In basketball there are three good things you can do with the ball. Shoot, pass and dribble. Every time you touch the ball, you want to evaluate these three things in this order. And the evaluation is based on how it helps the team reach its goals.
Shoot — is this a high percentage shot? Are any teammates in position to rebound if it misses? Is there a better opportunity if I pass to someone or dribble?
Pass — can I set up a teammate to have a high percentage chance at being successful? Will a pass force the defense to adjust an maybe create an opening?
Dribble — don’t start dribbling unless you have somewhere in mind that you are going. Don’t stop dribbling until you get somewhere.
And it is best to know which of these you are going to do before the ball touches your hand.
In the same way, you have three good options in any situation where you interact with someone.
But these are usually blended more. One is more dominant at a time, but all are being used.
Unlike basketball, it is better to listen to someone first before deciding which of these is going to be the dominant one in this interaction.